Leaving the hair salon feeling disappointed, it is easier to blame the hairdresser rather than ourselves, yet the truth is, what we tell and share with the hairdresser is just as important as his or her skills. I’ve probably spent more time seated in their chairs than the average twenty-something woman and I’ve certainly learned a few things along the way.

Talk: it seems simple, but as a shy girl myself, I know it isn’t easy for everyone, especially when entering a fancy, trendy hair salon. As a customer, it is important to give directions, and even more important to respond to the hairdresser’s propositions, to be honest when something seems unclear, or simply wrong. The hairdresser’s vocabulary can be a little bit too specific and misleading sometimes -what they call a dark blond is what most people call a dark chestnut hair for instance-, so asking for clarification is a must. However, if a hairdresser’s vocabulary is different from ours, they might not always understand what we have in mind as well: this is when –realisticphotos come in. It is like showing a sketch to a tattoo artist, it helps them visualize the final result before they even try to work on it. As long as the photo doesn’t go too far away from our hair type and/or colour, hairdressers really appreciate this gesture. That being said and in case of a drastic makeover, accepting the process is essential. Sometimes, things can’t all be done at once, and not accepting it can lead to serious regrets. I always like to add a little ‘if my hair can handle it’ at the end of my sentence, just to be sure my hairdresser knows that respecting my hair is my utmost priority. Finally, saying thank you when a good work has been done, being faithful to a specific hairdresser is very helpful: it is like a relationship, the more people see each other, the easier it becomes to talk and the easier it gets for the hairdresser to understand his or her customer’s needs.

Going to the hairdresser can be very stressful and overwhelming, yet since the day I’ve decided to be both more confident and realistic about what I want, I’ve never been disappointed again. As much as I would like to relax and become completely passive in the salon chair, I believe one customer has to be more attentive and involved to leave it all smiley and happy.


  • I have changed hair dressers many times over the years, due to frequent moving, and it is always a process to get back to me being 100% content when I leave. Lots and lots of talking are key.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

    • Moving to Scotland, I also had to start from scratch and I agree, it takes a lot of time!

  • I always bring a picture of the colour hair cut I want and it helps most of the times 🙂

    Caterina |

    • Yes, hairdressers always look so relieved when I show them my pictures, that way they can be absolutely sure of what I want! Thanks for reading 🙂

  • I always bring a picture of what I have in mind an then go from there. I suffered way too many disastrous cuts over the years so when I get a hairdresser that I like, I stick to the person forever. LOL!

    • Isn’t it the worst feeling? When you are at the till and you have to pay for a service you don’t like?

  • I’ve never really found a hair stylist I was completely happy with… But thanks for your tips, hopefully they’ll help me next time! 😉

  • I’ve had some nightmare ‘dos’ over the years but I now have a hairdresser that I love – we understand each other & my hair and its needs. I think that sometimes we forget about maintenance and have our hearts set on something that looks great in the salon but doesn’t exactly fit with our lives, which can lead to frustrations! Great post & you are SO pretty! xx


    • Oh, thank you 🙂 I agree, actually I should have talked about it as well, sometimes a haircut looks great when we leave the hair salon but when it comes to reproducing the hairstyle at home, it just doesn’t work and it’s so frustrating!

  • Maria

    Thanks for the tips! I think the key is, as you said, to be confident about what you want.
    She Blushes

  • I just recently had a bad experience with a hairdresser, I wish I had read this post before!
    Kate xx

  • I love your hair! I am really lucky because my friend is a hairdresser and she always makes my hair look nice haha x

    Mapped Out Blog | Beauty & Fashion

  • Meredith

    I love your tips! I always show up with tons of pictures but I think I still need to be more vocal about what I’m wanting.


    • Thank you 🙂 Yes, I believe it has to be a little bit of both, but I understand you, I always have to force myself to talk!

  • monica

    love the tips. I will dye my hair today. wish me luck <3


  • Really good suggestions. You have to be honest in knowing her/his capabilities. Go several times before getting anything major done.

  • The result looks so great! And I couldn’t agree more on being faithful to a hairdresser, but if i can’t the next time, i’ll be sure to keep your tips with me. Thanks a lot for sharing!

    Luna from Room95 Blog | Instagram

  • These are all so true! It’s not just the hairdressers fault 🙂

    xx Sofia | SOFIAADOT